God hates divorce.
More than likely we all have heard this scripture, while true that God hates divorce because of the impact it causes on the families, this is not a scripture that should be used lightly. There are some women who are in dangerous marriages, marriages were they are beaten, raped and children are in danger. There are times when well meaning people had told these women to stay in the marriage and pray for their spouse. While praying for your spouse should always be done, I would like to say please never tell a woman in a abusive relationship to return home and just pray for their spouse because it might be their last night ALIVE! When dealing with the issue of domestic violence first thing Christians women should know is yes God hates divorce ,but that scriptures pertains to a Christian marriage were both spouse are serving the Lord. In the old testament a husband would divorce his wife for any reason, Just looking for a way out of his marriage this is why God said he hated divorce because they did not take their vows seriously and inturn destroy the covenant between husband and wife. A man that is abusive to his wife is number one, not honoring his wife. Number two ,not loving his wife as God command as Christ love the church and number three ,most likely does not have a true relationship with God to be mistreating his spouse he is to be one flesh with his wife.This is why this scripture will not pertain to a abusive marriage, for God tells us in his word that he came for us to have life and have it abundantly and being in an abusive relationship is not having a blessed life !Women in these situations need to quickly separate themself from their abusers.
One example of God removing women from an abusive relationship( not necessary physical but the bible does tell us that he was wicked) is the story of Abigail. Abigail was married to a wicked man, the bible tells us, and one day Abigail had met David he was a man after God`s own heart. Abigail was kind to David even when her husband was wicked to him inturn God gave Abigail king David as a Husband.
1 Samuel 25:3-17
3 The name of the man was Nabal, and the name of his wife Abigail. And she was a woman of good understanding and beautiful appearance; but the man was harsh and evil in his doings
1 Samuel 25 Now Abigail went to Nabal, and there he was, holding a feast in his house, like the feast of a king. And Nabal’s heart was merry within him, for he was very drunk; therefore she told him nothing, little or much, until morning light. 37 So it was, in the morning, when the wine had gone from Nabal, and his wife had told him these things, that his heart died within him, and he became like a stone. 38 Then it happened, after about ten days, that the LORD struck Nabal, and he died. 39 So when David heard that Nabal was dead, he said, “Blessed be the LORD, who has pleaded the cause of my reproach from the hand of Nabal, and has kept His servant from evil! For the LORD has returned the wickedness of Nabal on his own head.”
And David sent and proposed to Abigail, to take her as his wife. 40 When the servants of David had come to Abigail at Carmel, they spoke to her saying, “David sent us to you, to ask you to become his wife.”
41 Then she arose, bowed her face to the earth, and said, “Here is your maidservant, a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my lord.” 42 So Abigail rose in haste and rode on a donkey, attended by five of her maidens; and she followed the messengers of David, and became his wife.
I like to stress this if you are in a abusive relationship get out for God does not wish you to stay in that relationship. Yes you can pray for your husband that God will change his heart, for God will speak to his heart but remember he has a free will he must choose to change. Sometimes God is trying to get you out of a bad relationship so he can bless you like he blessed Abigail with a man after his own heart. God word tell us he thinks Good about us to bless us not to cause us any harm!
Here a scripture to stand on if you are going through a bad marriage, stand on God promises get help don’t suffer one more day. Jeremiah 29:11For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.
More than likely we all have heard this scripture, while true that God hates divorce because of the impact it causes on the families, this is not a scripture that should be used lightly. There are some women who are in dangerous marriages, marriages were they are beaten, raped and children are in danger. There are times when well meaning people had told these women to stay in the marriage and pray for their spouse. While praying for your spouse should always be done, I would like to say please never tell a woman in a abusive relationship to return home and just pray for their spouse because it might be their last night ALIVE! When dealing with the issue of domestic violence first thing Christians women should know is yes God hates divorce ,but that scriptures pertains to a Christian marriage were both spouse are serving the Lord. In the old testament a husband would divorce his wife for any reason, Just looking for a way out of his marriage this is why God said he hated divorce because they did not take their vows seriously and inturn destroy the covenant between husband and wife. A man that is abusive to his wife is number one, not honoring his wife. Number two ,not loving his wife as God command as Christ love the church and number three ,most likely does not have a true relationship with God to be mistreating his spouse he is to be one flesh with his wife.This is why this scripture will not pertain to a abusive marriage, for God tells us in his word that he came for us to have life and have it abundantly and being in an abusive relationship is not having a blessed life !Women in these situations need to quickly separate themself from their abusers.
One example of God removing women from an abusive relationship( not necessary physical but the bible does tell us that he was wicked) is the story of Abigail. Abigail was married to a wicked man, the bible tells us, and one day Abigail had met David he was a man after God`s own heart. Abigail was kind to David even when her husband was wicked to him inturn God gave Abigail king David as a Husband.
1 Samuel 25:3-17
3 The name of the man was Nabal, and the name of his wife Abigail. And she was a woman of good understanding and beautiful appearance; but the man was harsh and evil in his doings
1 Samuel 25 Now Abigail went to Nabal, and there he was, holding a feast in his house, like the feast of a king. And Nabal’s heart was merry within him, for he was very drunk; therefore she told him nothing, little or much, until morning light. 37 So it was, in the morning, when the wine had gone from Nabal, and his wife had told him these things, that his heart died within him, and he became like a stone. 38 Then it happened, after about ten days, that the LORD struck Nabal, and he died. 39 So when David heard that Nabal was dead, he said, “Blessed be the LORD, who has pleaded the cause of my reproach from the hand of Nabal, and has kept His servant from evil! For the LORD has returned the wickedness of Nabal on his own head.”
And David sent and proposed to Abigail, to take her as his wife. 40 When the servants of David had come to Abigail at Carmel, they spoke to her saying, “David sent us to you, to ask you to become his wife.”
41 Then she arose, bowed her face to the earth, and said, “Here is your maidservant, a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my lord.” 42 So Abigail rose in haste and rode on a donkey, attended by five of her maidens; and she followed the messengers of David, and became his wife.
I like to stress this if you are in a abusive relationship get out for God does not wish you to stay in that relationship. Yes you can pray for your husband that God will change his heart, for God will speak to his heart but remember he has a free will he must choose to change. Sometimes God is trying to get you out of a bad relationship so he can bless you like he blessed Abigail with a man after his own heart. God word tell us he thinks Good about us to bless us not to cause us any harm!
Here a scripture to stand on if you are going through a bad marriage, stand on God promises get help don’t suffer one more day. Jeremiah 29:11For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.
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